Ask Sara #2

Q: How do I get into Stanford?
A: Take 280 North — it’s the quickest way. (And you can’t be rejected.)

Q: Junior year isn't as hard as I thought it would be — is there something wrong with me?

A: If you think it’s wrong to separate yourself from the status quo, to prove the junior-year-is-hell-we-are-all-going-to-die-in-a-fiery-pit-of-failing-grades stereotype wrong, to have a realistic workload, or to not procrastinate, then yes, there is something very wrong.

Q: I am in the closet, and although SHS is a relatively accepting community, it is inevitable that people would treat me differently if they knew — something I don’t want to happen. Should I still come out?

A: Coming out can be extremely difficult and make you feel vulnerable. It would be naïve to say that every single student will treat you the same if you come out, and it is perfectly understandable to feel that way. I know it sounds cliché, but the best time to reveal yourself is when you are fully confident in yourself and able to handle the inevitable adversity.

Coming out before you reach that stage may hurt you in the long run if you only believe the negative things people might say. I hope that in the future, you can ignore the minor population of ignorant people who see you differently and finally be yourself.

Q: People in my class often make jokes about rape or "being gay,” which feels highly disrespectful and ignorant. How can I confront them about this without being shrugged off as a "killjoy”?

A: You’re right: It is disrespectful and ignorant. While I doubt that they intend to upset anyone, your classmates need to understand that their words are hurtful and should not be used so flippantly. Derogatory terms and jokes make school a less safe place for everyone. Next time I recommend saying something along the lines of, “Come on, guys, let’s not be rude. Not everyone thinks you’re just joking — it can come off as insensitive.” I know it’s difficult to step up because you don’t want to seem overbearing, but trust me, your classmates will appreciate it. It’s our choice — do we want to stand up for what we believe is right, or let injustices pass by and accept the norm?

Q: Who are you?
A: I’ll let you know when I figure that out.